Your Trauma Is Valid

Many of us have faced trauma or something that has hurt us a lot, and this can show up in our relationships through a variety of ways.

We go through the flight, fight, freeze and fawn response. All of these are here to protect us.

When we are in the fight, we might shout, or become aggressive during moments of conflict. We might feel threatened and even resort to insults or threats.

When in the flight mode, we might overthink frequently and struggle to stay in the present moment.

When in the freeze response, you might find it hard to make choices, give up quickly and even put off doing things.

If you are in the fawn state, you may resort to putting other people’s needs before you and even maybe agreeing with what others say even when you may disagree.

Have you ever experienced this? What other ways do you feel trauma can show up in relationships?

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

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Change The Narrative

Happy Wednesday. I hope that your week is going well so far.

Something that we can all relate to is not wanting to go to certain places because there are memories that are attached to them.

These might be places, where someone was rude to you, a place where you were hurt or hurt yourself, a place that you feel weak and hopeless, a place that makes you scared to revisit.

I have some of these places too. Places that I have avoided because they cause me stress and anxiety, however what I have learnt to do is to re-write the narrative, and not hide from these places.

If you want to take back the narrative, do the following:

1. Laugh at the place where you cried
2. Scream and shout out loud, at the place where you felt unheard
3. Grow where they made you feel small

You don’t need to hide from the places, create a safe space in your head and around you. Remember, you are strong.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Past Trauma Triggers

Hi There.

I hope that you had a good weekend. I certainly enjoyed it, although the weekend really goes too fast.

Everyone has gone through things in their past, so I want to go through a few signs to look out for when someone’s past trauma has been triggered.

1. Zoning out
2. Not making eye contact
3. Wanting to be alone
4. Avoiding contact with people
5. Going silent
6. Struggling to focus and breathe
7. A general feeling of being unsafe

If you notice anyone feeling like this, be patient, kind and offer them a safe space.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Anxiety Reducing Tips

Hi There.

I hope you are well.

As someone who suffers from anxiety, I want to share some of my practices and habits that I have got into that help to reduce anxiety.

1. Journal. I write down my fears and reframe them into something positive.
2. I am kind to myself during moments of anxiety. I am strong.
3. I take a walk in nature, that helps me to stay calm.
4. See those people that bring out the best in you and make you smile.
5. Do the things that I enjoy.

By getting into good habits, it helps you to unlearn and unstick those habits that trigger your anxiety.

What other good habits can you practice?

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Life Is Too Short

Hi, Happy Monday.

How was your weekend?

Many things have got me thinking, but the one thing that springs to mind is that life is too short for us to get stuck in the things that drain our energy.

Life is too short to:

Not feel valued. Surround yourself with people that encourage you to be your best self.

Not believe you are good enough. You are good enough. Ignore other people’s opinions.

Not love yourself. Learn to love being yourself and life will be lighter and you will be happier.

Not take action. You know you are capable, so go for what you deserve.

What else is life too short for you not to do?

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Take Care

Hi There.

I hope you are having a good week so far.

I want to talk a bit about self-care when you may be feeling low.

When you are feeling depressed you lose the hope and you don’t believe that you are worthy of being taken care off. Things such as showering, putting on clean clothes, eating healthy food, exercising or even brushing your teeth feels like a mission.

If you don’t see a better tomorrow, why would you end up taking care of yourself today?

We give ourselves so much grief on our bad days and this can cause us to sink into a deeper hole of hopelessness.

When you do find yourself in those moments, as difficult as it may be, show yourself love and kindness. Brighter and happier days are just around the corner.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Some Friendly Reminders

Happy Saturday.

I want to remind you that just because the Christmas season has begun, it doesn’t mean that you have to be jumping for joy.

It is okay if:

• You aren’t in a festive mood
• Things aren’t going according to plan
• You set your holiday boundaries
• You take time for yourself
• You are grieving
• You feel anxious about Christmas

Allow yourself to feel and be how you want. Don’t be hard on yourself or force yourself to be cheerful and jolly. You are doing great where you are.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Are You Burntout?

Happy Monday.

This time of year can be overwhelming for many of us. Burnout isn’t something that happens out of the blue or all of a sudden, it happens over a specific time which makes things harder for us to see the signs.

If you start to feel burnout, you may struggle to make decisions, this can be something as simple as figuring out what to have for dinner.

On top of this, you might struggle to find the excitement in things that you used to love to do, and your confidence may start to dip.

Let us not forget emotions as well. You might be snappy with people or take things more personally.

Do you recognise any of these signs of burnout?

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

Take A Deep Breath

If we are feeling stressed out or overwhelmed, one of the first things that we are advised to do is to pause and take a deep breath.

Deep breathing is known to help us calm down and thing more clearly.

Breathwork is about changing the way we breathe. We consciously think about how we breathe for a certain amount time. When breathing in the way, we stay in the present and our levels of cortisol lowers.

Here are a few benefits of breathwork:

1. Helps us to let go of negative thoughts
2. Helps us to boost our self-esteem
3. Helps us to control our emotions
4. Helps us to take control
5. Helps us to stay focused

Taking a few moments of mindfulness in your day is vital to improving your mental well-being so ensure to prioritise this.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x

The Next Few Months

How we are in the fourth quarter of the year is beyond me. How will you look at it? Will you keep doing what you are doing or will you give yourself that extra push to finish the year on a high?

What I recommend is to visualise how you want the rest of the year to go. Try adopting the following prompts:

1. Over the next 3 months I want to feel:
2. I will create more space for:
3. Ways I can implement good habits:
4. I will make this happen by:
5. At the end of the year I want to look back and feel:

Alongside this, also ensure that you:

1. Invest in your wellbeing
2. Make time for yourself
3. Have fun

You are the main person who can create the best life for you.

All The Best,

Live Like KK x